To me, going on dates is something I've never gotten into, "dating" had never crossed my mind as a necessity or even desire. Going into CVS today had me scatterbrained, I went in to pick up something from the pharmacy and couldn't see passed the over priced chocolate and red teddy bears with heart shaped eyes. Why is it that love is shoved in our face one week after celebrating the new year? It's bad enough everyone is obsessing about their new years resolutions(no judgement, I hope you succeed!), health kicks and tweets out the ass saying "new year, new me". Did I buy a scale today? yes, but I'm also going to Vegas in two months, it has nothing to do with 2014. Anyways, as a young twenty-something, I'm stuck in this weird time where I claim I don't want to be tied down by someone of the opposite sex, but overpriced chocolate and ugly teddybears have the wheels turning. No, I don't yearn for Russell Stover boxed chocolate, but chocolate covered strawberries? Maybe...
I was told by a new friend not to become cynical about love just because its not something I want right now. Truthfully, being 23, I don't know what I want but I know what I'm not looking for, and thats a serious relationship. I also don't want to be making that classic drunk girl mistake of texting someone, who in all honesty I don't really care that much about stupid nonsense that I don't mean. They say, whoever they are, "a drunk mind is a sober heart" and I'm calling bullshit. In some cases, depending the stage of the relationship, being drunk and blurting out a particular confession can be grounds for termination but what if you mean it? Do you need to feel bad for voicing your opinion or feelings? So you "hook-up" with someone.. and then what? Do you just say your farewells and hope everything works out for the best? The whole thing is just plain annoying, hence the reason why I'm so-called "cynical" about relationships. It almost takes the fun out of the fun if that makes sense. I want to have fun but I also want chocolate covered strawberries from a cute boy who tells me I smell nice or something. It's a struggle and balance I'm currently trying to figure out. Overthinking it? probably.
Sorry for the Kesha reference guys, it just couldn't be more perfect for todays topic.
Let's not try and kid ourselves, Tinder is real and its taking over our love lives. As a young twenty-something studying for exams, my study breaks would be spent shamefully swiping left or right seeing what boy would pop up next. If you don't know what Tinder is then you're either in a blissful, loving relationship or you've been living under a rock. It's not match.com or eharmony, its for young(or old..ew) single people looking for a variety of things. These things can range from a simple hookup to a committed relationship. The beauty of Tinder is being able to talk to guys or gals you find attractive, I'm single, I'm busy, and sometimes I'm bored, so why not strike up a convo with a cute stranger? I know people who have met others on Tinder, hell, I've met someone on Tinder (due to mutual friends of course). Here are some of the things I'd like to advise to anyone looking to use Tinder in the near future... in all honesty the App should come with a warning label.
1. Don't go on Tinder looking for a serious relationship.
You wouldn't go on a blind date expecting more than dinner and the possibility for decent conversation, would you? Treat Tinder like a joke until there's a reason not to and let that reason be a cute conversationalist looking to grab a drink. If you're just looking to hookup then use Tinder at your own discretion, you will most likely succeed.
2. Don't Tinder while drunk.
I promise, you will end up with a plethora of really awkward matches when you wake up. With each new match you'll be counting the numerous shots from the night before.
3. "We met at Wholefoods by the granola bar".
Don't tell your parents or anyone for that matter, expect for your close group of friends, where you really met your knight and shining armor. If you end up meeting someone on Tinder and it really goes somewhere, thats wonderful, but telling your parents that you met while on a hook-up App will just complicate things. Have fun with it, "oh he saved me from a rabies infected octopus". The possibilities for your new romance are limitless.
4. Facebook stalk if at all possible.
Since the only way to sign up with Tinder is through Facebook, it makes it all too easy to Facebook stalk, something no one does of course. Tinder will also tell you what interests you have in common and what friends you have in common. Get in there, don't be shy. Find that boy via social media and then decide whether or not the coffee date can actually happen. This isn't Catfish.
4. Have fun.
If you're going to download Tinder then have fun, its a wild ride.
Please please share your tinder experiences below, we're all in this together.
I leave you with a video.
